Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Internet haunts

Today I have a brief grumble about polyamorous blogging. When we started discussing having a multi-person partnership, I started poking around some polyamorous corners of the internet, with varying degrees of success. I keep running into one of three problems:
1.  The site is crusty and old and full of broken links (Has nobody talked about polyamory on the internet since 2000?) 
2.  The content and/or advertising is highly sex-oriented (Yes, I want to learn about alternative relationship structures. No, I do not want to purchase sex toys.) 
3.  The site/people talk almost exclusively about couples 'opening up' their relationship and bringing in someone new (Not at all my situation.)
I've also found the topics of conversation to be more limited than in ace circles. There doesn't seem to be as much interest in deconstructing assumptions, which is my specialty and fascination.
My perception. I'd like to think it's wrong, but...well....
On the one hand, I'm a bit disappointed by my findings. I strongly suspect that I'm just looking in the wrong places. Anyone have good site recommendations?

On the other hand, asexual blogs/AVEN are rockin' places to discuss sexuality, relationships, gender, and so on. Flowers has enjoyed the new wealth of vocabulary and concepts they've discovered here. I think the asexual community has a lot to offer (to anyone, not just asexuals) because of how much careful dissection we've done. It's not that often that you find a place to talk about sexuality where critical thinking is the norm.


  1. I forget, have you run into relationship anarchy? That tends to involve more deconstructing things.
    Also, here's a post on polynormativity (like your #3) that I like

    1. I have heard of relationship anarchy, although I admit I've sort of forgotten about it lately. The only blogger I knew of who talked about it started...ah...diverging from my it's sort of fallen off my radar. Now that you've reminded me I'm poking around to see if I can find some other bloggers talking about RA, and that's proving useful. Thanks for reminding me!